Raz has been very good about helping me understand all his various friends and relations, yes, and what not to take too personally.

As to Boxing Day - are you sure it wouldn't be seen as an intrusion by others? I'd hate to overstep on private family time, or seem to be assuming too much.

I also gather, from something I overheard last night, that I should thank you for arranging to avoid any awkwardness with the Calderwoods. I do regret that, on any number of levels, and really do appreciate your smoothing the way there.