Really, it's as much growing up in an absurdly large extended family, and knowing the places people try to make a meal out of the most innocent tidbits as anything else. But you and Narcissa (and the YPL work), yes, have shown me some ways to manage it a bit more gracefully. Let me think about where for supper, but yes. I was thinking relaxed and happy rather than blatantly romantic.
On the transcript: I'd rather not tell you beforehand if you don't mind, beyond that it's about what questions he asks. If you truly don't see anything, maybe I can set it aside and stop poking at it.
As far as taking it very well, honestly, love. You were young. It's clear you had no idea, or you'd not be this way about it.
Did you make some careless choices? Yes. But people do. It's part of becoming an adult. (And besides, it does take two to produce children, so there's responsibility on her side, too.)
And if in this case, it involves a young woman growing up with a family who loved her, (my brother knew Philip at school, and I know he's a good sort) and resources and all that, it's scarcely the worst possible outcome. Much as sorting out the truth is a good idea.
Right. Happier topics. I won't make a fuss, then, but I think you'll like your present. Do you need to stay here, or could we get away for a night, do you think? (And if so, I'm guessing from the above you might prefer somewhere other than Spence and New London.)
Think of it as celebrating a year of you being alive and well and all the wonderful things of the year, rather than you being ancient. (Which you're not.)
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Date: 2012-05-19 07:56 pm (UTC)Really, it's as much growing up in an absurdly large extended family, and knowing the places people try to make a meal out of the most innocent tidbits as anything else. But you and Narcissa (and the YPL work), yes, have shown me some ways to manage it a bit more gracefully. Let me think about where for supper, but yes. I was thinking relaxed and happy rather than blatantly romantic.
On the transcript: I'd rather not tell you beforehand if you don't mind, beyond that it's about what questions he asks. If you truly don't see anything, maybe I can set it aside and stop poking at it.
As far as taking it very well, honestly, love. You were young. It's clear you had no idea, or you'd not be this way about it.
Did you make some careless choices? Yes. But people do. It's part of becoming an adult. (And besides, it does take two to produce children, so there's responsibility on her side, too.)
And if in this case, it involves a young woman growing up with a family who loved her, (my brother knew Philip at school, and I know he's a good sort) and resources and all that, it's scarcely the worst possible outcome. Much as sorting out the truth is a good idea.
Right. Happier topics. I won't make a fuss, then, but I think you'll like your present. Do you need to stay here, or could we get away for a night, do you think? (And if so, I'm guessing from the above you might prefer somewhere other than Spence and New London.)
Think of it as celebrating a year of you being alive and well and all the wonderful things of the year, rather than you being ancient. (Which you're not.)