Isn't it funny how rarely that comes up? Raz and I were talking about it not too long ago, and he admitted most people he's heard mention it don't care for a couple of the side effects. I'd heard the same thing from partners in the past, too (though I gather the formula's been improved again since). Bluntly, that enough men have less desire for sex, and consider that a poor trade for less chance of pregnancy.
Honestly, though, I'd also rather be in charge of it myself. I have trusted all my past partners to be honest if they used it, and a couple of them have used Seaman's Shield as well as my using the charm. But it's also always been the case that pregnancy would have weighed more on me than on them. And one does hear the stories of someone saying they took it, and using something entirely different, just as one hears the stories of women claiming the same to trick a man into marriage.
Are the student pamphlets as horrible as the adult ones? Something else struck me, reading through these again, that they do also seem to ignore the idea people might be having sex outside an engagement, at least. Or at least strongly implying that nice people don't do that, and I wondered if that's the same in the school-leaver's set.
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Date: 2012-06-02 06:42 pm (UTC)Honestly, though, I'd also rather be in charge of it myself. I have trusted all my past partners to be honest if they used it, and a couple of them have used Seaman's Shield as well as my using the charm. But it's also always been the case that pregnancy would have weighed more on me than on them. And one does hear the stories of someone saying they took it, and using something entirely different, just as one hears the stories of women claiming the same to trick a man into marriage.
Are the student pamphlets as horrible as the adult ones? Something else struck me, reading through these again, that they do also seem to ignore the idea people might be having sex outside an engagement, at least. Or at least strongly implying that nice people don't do that, and I wondered if that's the same in the school-leaver's set.