Well. Thank you, for your vote of confidence. Days like yesterday do rather test one's sense of perspective, I admit.
'Stubborn' is as good an adjective for any Councilwizard as I have ever heard, my dear. They are all stoic to a fault. I find it hard to resist the instinct to comfort but there are times when you're quite right, it does more harm than good. It seems to me that any man prefers not to have his weaknesses laid bare, no matter the source, and at such times our altogether justifiable impulse merely presents to them as an uncomfortable reminder of whatever shortcomings they are struggling to conquer.
I assure you, it may look effortless, but knowing when to speak to my husband and when to let him be is a skill only developed over long years of partnership. I confess that when it comes to others, who may be dear but with whom my acquaintance is not as complete, it is much harder to judge the appropriate response. Often the best thing to do is the hardest thing, which is to wait until we are needed and be ready to offer what solace is ours to give.
The good news is that such times inevitably pass, eventually.
We are undeniably the luckiest of people, to live where we do and how we do. I hold that thought in my heart and find that it strengthens me.
Please do spend time with me in New London. I still owe you that spa day, after all. I daresay we could both use it!
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Re: Private message to Narcissa Malfoy
Date: 2012-06-12 05:32 pm (UTC)I -
Well. Thank you, for your vote of confidence. Days like yesterday do rather test one's sense of perspective, I admit.
'Stubborn' is as good an adjective for any Councilwizard as I have ever heard, my dear. They are all stoic to a fault. I find it hard to resist the instinct to comfort but there are times when you're quite right, it does more harm than good. It seems to me that any man prefers not to have his weaknesses laid bare, no matter the source, and at such times our altogether justifiable impulse merely presents to them as an uncomfortable reminder of whatever shortcomings they are struggling to conquer.
I assure you, it may look effortless, but knowing when to speak to my husband and when to let him be is a skill only developed over long years of partnership. I confess that when it comes to others, who may be dear but with whom my acquaintance is not as complete, it is much harder to judge the appropriate response. Often the best thing to do is the hardest thing, which is to wait until we are needed and be ready to offer what solace is ours to give.
The good news is that such times inevitably pass, eventually.
We are undeniably the luckiest of people, to live where we do and how we do. I hold that thought in my heart and find that it strengthens me.
Please do spend time with me in New London. I still owe you that spa day, after all. I daresay we could both use it!